Thursday, September 27, 2012

IF - The series, at least from my perspective

When I started this blog almost two years ago I was inspired to write by all the women who were still waiting for their miracle to occur.  I wanted to let them know, even if that miracle never happened or was delayed, life could still be true, good and beautiful. 

I have been reading so many angst* filled posts lately.  IF tends to eat away at your self-confidence, and, perhaps especially for Catholic women, your purpose for being.  We were taught and want to be fruitful and multiply; to have good Catholic families; to raise future nuns, priests and saints.  When we cannot, we often feel like failures.

I wasn't able to come up with good, quick comments for many of the heart wrenching posts I have read so much of.  I am slow to put into words what I inherently know to be right and true.  So, I have decided to do my own little IF series, my reflections on what I have learned through our IF journey.    These are a few of the topics I am thinking of writing about. 

Throwing in the towel/waiving the white flag
What have I learned

If you have any others you think I should cover, I am always open to suggestions.

* I debated about using this word, as lately it has been so often used as a derogative.  (i.e. teen-aged angst)  But when I looked up the definition, it is most appropriate and hardly a putdown.



  1. If can tear a person's life apart...but like you..I've realized life is good without kids too. Now I say "Not having kids has changed my life." It has. I'll be interested to read your future posts!!!

  2. I love your posts! Can't wait to read your IF series. You have so much to share and encourage other women with who are still in the trenches. I think it could be helpful to read how you maintain your confidence, joy, and purpose without children.

  3. You are answering a very specific prayer of mine by writing this series - so I'm going to say thank-you in advance :).

    Also, I want to know that your goal for starting your blog has been realized (at least for me) - I find so much hope in reading about your life, more than I could ever say. I am so glad you are here and writing and loving, though, as always, I wish none of us were writing/experiencing any of this.

    I have so much more I could say, but I am feeling like I need to just stop and say thank you once again.

  4. I cannot wait to read your posts! As one of the angst-filled writers I need some perspective from the other side of IF.

  5. Maybe ... how you know when to stop pursuing treatment? ... I can't wait for your IF series! I love reading your posts and I know the upcoming ones will be great and make me think/re-think my ideas/self.

  6. I am soooooo looking forward to this, and have often been "shot down" when I have suggested that this be a necessary and mandatory part of ANY IF support group. Thank you for taking this on. I have no suggestions, but know you will be full of wisdom in anything you write.

  7. Thank you for wanting to write these posts. One suggestion I have for a post would be...How do you handle or what do you say when people ask if you have kids or ask don't you want any? I get these questions a lot and without giving our infertility story I am not sure what to say.

  8. Praying for you as you search your heart and share your reflecionts! You are a gift to this community!