When I started this blog almost two years ago I was inspired to write by all the women who were still waiting for their miracle to occur. I wanted to let them know, even if that miracle never happened or was delayed, life could still be true, good and beautiful.
I have been reading so many angst* filled posts lately. IF tends to eat away at your self-confidence, and, perhaps especially for Catholic women, your purpose for being. We were taught and want to be fruitful and multiply; to have good Catholic families; to raise future nuns, priests and saints. When we cannot, we often feel like failures.
I wasn't able to come up with good, quick comments for many of the heart wrenching posts I have read so much of. I am slow to put into words what I inherently know to be right and true. So, I have decided to do my own little IF series, my reflections on what I have learned through our IF journey. These are a few of the topics I am thinking of writing about.
I have been reading so many angst* filled posts lately. IF tends to eat away at your self-confidence, and, perhaps especially for Catholic women, your purpose for being. We were taught and want to be fruitful and multiply; to have good Catholic families; to raise future nuns, priests and saints. When we cannot, we often feel like failures.
I wasn't able to come up with good, quick comments for many of the heart wrenching posts I have read so much of. I am slow to put into words what I inherently know to be right and true. So, I have decided to do my own little IF series, my reflections on what I have learned through our IF journey. These are a few of the topics I am thinking of writing about.
Throwing in the towel/waiving the white flag
Regrets??
What have I learned
Regrets??
What have I learned
* I debated about using this word, as lately it has been so often used as a derogative. (i.e. teen-aged angst) But when I looked up the definition, it is most appropriate and hardly a putdown.
AMDG
If can tear a person's life apart...but like you..I've realized life is good without kids too. Now I say "Not having kids has changed my life." It has. I'll be interested to read your future posts!!!
ReplyDeleteI love your posts! Can't wait to read your IF series. You have so much to share and encourage other women with who are still in the trenches. I think it could be helpful to read how you maintain your confidence, joy, and purpose without children.
ReplyDeleteYou are answering a very specific prayer of mine by writing this series - so I'm going to say thank-you in advance :).
ReplyDeleteAlso, I want to know that your goal for starting your blog has been realized (at least for me) - I find so much hope in reading about your life, more than I could ever say. I am so glad you are here and writing and loving, though, as always, I wish none of us were writing/experiencing any of this.
I have so much more I could say, but I am feeling like I need to just stop and say thank you once again.
I cannot wait to read your posts! As one of the angst-filled writers I need some perspective from the other side of IF.
ReplyDeleteMaybe ... how you know when to stop pursuing treatment? ... I can't wait for your IF series! I love reading your posts and I know the upcoming ones will be great and make me think/re-think my ideas/self.
ReplyDeleteI am soooooo looking forward to this, and have often been "shot down" when I have suggested that this be a necessary and mandatory part of ANY IF support group. Thank you for taking this on. I have no suggestions, but know you will be full of wisdom in anything you write.
ReplyDeleteThank you for wanting to write these posts. One suggestion I have for a post would be...How do you handle or what do you say when people ask if you have kids or ask don't you want any? I get these questions a lot and without giving our infertility story I am not sure what to say.
ReplyDeletePraying for you as you search your heart and share your reflecionts! You are a gift to this community!
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